With AFCAD you can configure the runways. You can close/open runways for takeoff/landing. I used this method mainly in FS2002, where only 1 runway was used for all traffic, and it was very annoying.
What I have discovered, the ATC may transfer planes to the parallell runway, if 5-6 planes report in for taxiing. In that case, ATC may transfer some to the other runway. I think generally, L-R choice is ruled by wind direction, as in real life.
At airports with 2 parallell runway, I used to download/edit the AFCAD file, that uses 1 runway for landing and other for takeoff only. This means both side. It may be not realistic, and does not solve the problem, if too many airplanes want to takeoff at a time, but it may be even better, when the same amount of landing aircrafts can be stepped to the other runway.
Anyway, I like the large airports, because you can taxi even 15 minutes, which is quite a lot of time for the convoy to disappear from the end of the runway. Other tactics is, to start the game 15-20 minutes before departure time. You can do the pre-flight checks/settings, you can drink a cup of tea...and meantime...departing AI aircrafts starting to move on the ground, some of them can even takeoff. When the departure time comes, you can close the doors, start pushing back, and you find yourself in an airport with full of life, and probably less waiting at the holding points.
